Family {the ordinary moments}

The start of moving


Devon: which is not where we’re moving to, but wouldn’t it be a great alternative to a moving truck!

With Kitty loving her new school, Elma loving the nursery section and Pip chomping at the bit to join them, we’ve been toying with the idea of moving slightly nearer than a county away for a little while.  We bring it up in conversation, and then rapidly backtrack and decide that we don’t have to leave the hockey club or John’s art class if only he doesn’t mind continuing to drive crazy distances every day.  It’s a battle of our heads, which have known that moving is inevitable since we signed the school enrolment form, and our hearts, which love where we live right now.  The idea of moving is in equal parts terrifying and exciting and I lurch between the two at regular intervals.

This year we could kid ourselves that it was all going to be OK, we could cope with the distance and so what if we were the most far flung family in the entire school.  From September, when Elma starts for real there’ll only be one day where she and Kitty finish at the same time, and three there and backs a day is just a school run too far.

In an ideal world of course their school would have been on the doorstep of our current house.  I love our house, for all its foibles and we’ve lived here 11 years; this is the house we came home to as newlyweds, the house that became home as it bore the brunt of our decorating wims until we figured out what we liked, and the only home that our children have ever known.  In the back of my head a little voice is shouting “how could you even think of leaving!”

Perhaps I’m more sentimental about it than I should be; the first time I ever moved house I was only a few weeks old and don’t remember it, and the second time I was just about to leave for university, and even then my parents were moving to what had been my grandparents’ house so it wasn’t exactly new or different.  The nearest I’ve ever come to house hunting was when my father stopped being a housemaster at the school he taught at and we had to choose between two available school houses to live in for term time.  John on the other hand thinks he’d moved house three or four times before they moved to his parents’ current house and is far more blase about it – unless he’s just covering up really well.

Moving will mean a new county, a new community, and a challenge to keep our ties to Warwickshire, and in the same breath will mean being nearer to some of my family, possibly with a shorter commute (and certainly a more reliable one), and near enough that we can have the kids’ school friends home to tea without having to apologise for the 40 minute drive.

So we’ve done the grown up thing, we’ve spoken to mortgage companies, and met our estate agent, and now we’re running around doing the last little bits of prinking and tidying up because tomorrow morning someone is coming to view our house.  It’s not actually even on the market yet, which is at least a nice sign that the house is marketable, and the pictures haven’t been done either, and it’s all very new and somehow feels like it’s happening very fast.

My biggest fear right now is that I will never find another house that I love as much as this one; we’ve prowled Rightmove and all the estate agents in our hopefully new town and after several hours on Google street maps there are two that we would consider enough that we want to go to see them out of a pretty large search area, and I’m digging deep to find some faith that one of them, or maybe something that’s not even on the market yet, will turn out to be our dream family home and that this time next year we’ll be getting ready for our first Christmas in our new house.

It somehow feels very very adult.


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  • Mary 06/11/2016 at 7:24 am

    Adult, yet terrifying!

    I hate our house. It doesn’t meet our needs. It’s a rental; we could be kicked out at a month’s notice, so although we’ve been here ten years we’d be foolish to think of it as our forever home. And yet, since Jamie arrived, a bit of me almost hopes we don’t get a deposit-to-buy windfall any time soon because we just don’t have that much spare adult!

  • Lucy 06/11/2016 at 8:12 am

    Oh my goodness, I’m totally with you. Our home went on the market on Tuesday, and after a first viewing yesterday we’ve already had an offer. And all of a sudden moving out of a home that made us a family seems very very real and I’m sad just thinking about it. We won’t be moving very far; but it’s a big move for us as we’ll be near enough doubling our living space. And I just feel very sentimental now about this little place that we moved into as a two and will move out of as a seven (I’m counting the fluffy babies in there too!) But fingers crossed it’s straightforward for us both and we can start making those new memories and putting down those new roots soon. x

  • Beth 06/11/2016 at 10:13 am

    Wow I can’t even imagine living anywhere that long. My oldest was in his third house before his first birthday!

    We’ve fairly recently bought (rather than renting) our first house which involved a school move for the big one. We can finally walk to school which is amazing and has made me really feel part of the community.

    Good luck with the veiwing 🙂

    (Came over via twitter)

  • Jenny 06/11/2016 at 7:00 pm

    Oh Carie I think you are so strong and doing what’s right for your family. And I hope it all falls into place for you and something catches your heart. But know your home is where your heart is and your heart is with your family. The rest is just brick and wood and everything in between. It’s the quality of life and family that’s so important. Good luck

  • Sherry 06/11/2016 at 7:59 pm

    I can only imagine how you feel. I’ve moved so many times, up north, back down south, the other side of the water and so on, and could quite happily park up in a new town, but somehow the idea of moving since I’ve had my girl really has a pull on me – I just can’t bear to think about it right now. I hope everything goes smoothly and makes your days much calmer x

  • Laura - dear bear and beany 07/11/2016 at 8:26 am

    This is us right now. We put our house up for sale two weeks and sold and brought a house on the same day, a couple of days later. It all happened really quickly. We are moving to be closer to Alice’s school and I will be able to walk to school. It will be a completely new lifestyle for us, but one that we are very excited about. Good luck lovely x

  • Evelyn 07/11/2016 at 11:30 am

    aw exciting, hope everything goes smoothly for you. I’ve moved around a fair amount and usually at least 100 miles at a time! Two years ago we moved from one end of our village to the other and it was so surreal

  • Hannah | The Simple Things Blog 07/11/2016 at 11:46 am

    It sounds like such a huge step, but a good one for your family. All the things you mentioned like being closer to your family and a shorter commute and closer to school all add up to massive positives , especially from a time point of view, and time is so precious. I really hope you find an house you love just as much your current one.

  • Eline @ Emmy + LIEN 07/11/2016 at 11:52 am

    Moving house is a huge step. I’ve done it more times than I have fingers to count (and I’m fast working up to all my toes as well), but I still get the wobbles every time. It’s such a heady mix of being sensible and adult, and just taking a leap of faith. It’s amazing how quickly the right house can feel like a home though – I really hope you find it soon x

  • Katie @mummydaddyme 08/11/2016 at 7:59 pm

    You are definitely allowed to feel sentimental Carie, I know that I would feel massively sentimental and a little sad about moving out of our home. Even though we will sometime in the next few years to a bigger step on the ladder so to speak, I will feel so sad as this is our first home together and where we had the glory days of our babies tiny years. But see it as another exciting adventure. And home is definitely where the heart is. x

  • Tracy 10/11/2016 at 3:31 pm

    oh wow! How wonderful that you’ve lived in a place you love so much, with so many wonderful memories 🙂 Of course you would feel all the feels! I have a sneaking suspicion, that you are just the sort of person who will love your home regardless, but yes, this is a VERY adult thing to do! I hope you find that the trade-off of less travel time is very much worth it (and I suspect that you will) Best wishes in the whole exciting (and anxiety-filled) endeavor.