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Me and Mine 2016: June

30/06/2016

Oh June you have been extraordinary. Impossibly wet, to the point that I took a week’s holiday and never managed an afternoon sat in the garden in the sunshine, crazy busy, though when does that ever change, and in the last week the wider world feels like it’s fallen down the rabbit hole and we’re all dazedly roaming around Wonderland trying to work out what happens next. And yet it’s been lovely.

Space for the Butterflies - Me and Mine 2016: June

This month I took my first decent stretch of holiday since Christmas, which was long overdue, H went to Majorca with his friends and came back with the world’s ugliest golf trophy (again), and I spent a couple of days drinking in inspiration at Blogtacular.

We’ve celebrated the Queen’s birthday, H and my birthday, our brother-in-law’s birthday and our sister-in-law’s birthday with a surfeit of cake and Kitty bounced her way through half term and on to the final stretch of her Reception year.

Little Miss Elma took the second of her preschool gym badges; I have no idea what she actually has to do to get it, and she mostly demonstrates by doing a downward dog, so I’m none the wiser, but she’s very proud of the badge, and we’re very proud of her.

And as you can see from the photos, our little tiny Pip Squeak becomes ever the more determinedly attached to any golf club/hockey stick/cricket bat/stick he can lay his hands on.

Space for the Butterflies - Me and Mine 2016: June

A lovely dear friend came to supper on Monday night (well supper and picture taking, but he’s known me a very long time so it can’t have been too much of a surprise), and when I arrived home from work they were all out in the garden playing hockey, with Pip getting stuck in at the centre of things.  Even when we went to sit at our patio table for supper he wriggled down and headed off, favouring practice over pudding.

Space for the Butterflies - Me and Mine 2016: June

There has been so much in the wider world this last week that is not good: a country revealed to be deeply polarised in its opinions; hurt and confusion reigning supreme on both sides of the ballot box; racism brought to the fore under the sham of legitimate political opinion.  It’s been a week which will set us off on the next part of our history, a “choose your own adventure” moment, turn to page 212 for Brexit.  I’m not ashamed to say that I wanted us to stay part of the EU, and I’m proud that the little part of the world where I live and the little part of the world where I’m from both voted Remain; small bastions in a sea of rural Leave votes.

The EU is far from perfect but I think that the solution would have been to roll our sleeves up and get stuck in to making it better, rather than thinking of it as the slightly camp, made to be laughed at, bureaucratic version of the Eurovision Song Contest; the sort of place where we send Farage and his ilk to keep them out of the way.  I spent Friday in a little cloud of shock and gut wrenching dismay; in my little bubble of friends and family almost everyone I spoke to was firmly in the remain camp, and I wasn’t expecting the result we got. Actually Kitty did vote “out” in her primary school mock election because as she later told us, she really liked Europe when we went last summer, she wants to go again, and you can only go to Europe if you go out of the classroom. Perfect logic, but a little something was lost in explanation!

I worry about our future, about the legacy we will be leaving to these three little ones and their generation, and about the people who voted Leave truly believing that nothing could be worse than their current set up, who I’m afraid will find that not necessarily true as straw promises come tumbling down around them.

Somehow taking our family photos was a marker of normality in a week where I’ve listened to more Radio 4 than ever before in my life. A constant in an increasingly crazy world. They are my world and my confidence that when the dust settles and the negotiations are over, and we’ve looked around this new world and made it our home,  I know we’ll still be taking family pictures, even the ones where Elma pulls a funny face, and Pip’s eating a ball and H and I look like we need to sleep for a week and Kitty is more fidgety than an imp.

My family, in June:

Space for the Butterflies - Me and Mine 2016: June

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  • Mini Travellers/FuelledbyLatte 30/06/2016 at 7:41 am

    yeah I love this, I might try to do our next one like this too! Great idea!

    • Carie 30/06/2016 at 1:15 pm

      It’s fun isn’t it – but you do need a friend to hold the camera – it’s something I could never do with a tripod!

  • Emma Plus Three 30/06/2016 at 9:13 am

    Fab photos, it’s a shame June has been such a rubbish month 🙁 x

    • Carie 30/06/2016 at 1:14 pm

      I have high hopes for the weather in July and August – we’re definitely owed some sunshine!

  • Sophie 30/06/2016 at 10:23 am

    Saying one side is racist is not an argument. It is true the leave camp has deceived the people but so has remain.
    The fact is the UK, cannot sustain these levels of immigration. If it was done with a rating system of only taking the best then, yes, taking in tax payers with a positive net contribution is fantastic. Taking people that do not integrate and live on welfare, rally for sharia law, hold child rape gangs, there are many more than just Rotherham. There are hard working immigrants that come in, but despite this, because they drive down wages, their net tax contribution turns negative. When government policy comes out, please ask yourself, how does this benefit me? Having unelected officials in Brussels who do not live in the UK make decisions for you is anti democratic, not to mention their rules trump yours. At least out of the EU you can choose to not not elect say David Cameron and he cannot harm you after. New travel visas will be issued like the Swiss which will allow you to travel as per usual so that is not an argument either.

    • Carie 30/06/2016 at 1:06 pm

      Hi Sophie thank you for commenting, I can see that this is something that you feel very strongly about. Please don’t be under the misapprehension that I am tarring all Leave supporters with the Farage brush; I have never said that the Leave campaign is inherently racist, only that it has allowed those who hold such views to give free reign to opinions they usually kept under wraps. I’m sure those running the leave campaign are just as disgusted at the sharp increase in racial abuse and intolerance that seems to have erupted in the last week.
      Nor do I claim the Remain side to be flawless. My firm belief is that we would have been better together, but that doesn’t mean that I accept everything that came from their campaign office as gospel truth. My view is more my considered opinion having researched both sides of the argument and waded through a swamp of political posturing, then being swayed by PR.
      As for immigration, well we’ll have to wait to see whether Brexit actually has any impact; the noises from the Leave campaign rather suggest that they don’t think it will, but I think it too easy to blame society’s ills on immigration; it’s not a perfect system but perhaps we need to take the plank out of our own eyes first.

  • Julia @ Rainbeaubelle 30/06/2016 at 12:42 pm

    Brilliant photos, it looks like you’re all having so much fun! It has been a crazy few weeks hasn’t it and it doesn’t seem to be getting better either does it! xx

    • Carie 30/06/2016 at 1:14 pm

      Mindblowingly crazy – but we’ll weather the storm, we always do!

  • Preeta 30/06/2016 at 12:46 pm

    Thank you for coming out and saying this, Carie. I feel exactly the same as you do, though I don’t live in the UK. I think it was a great loss for cooperation and international understanding, though of course the EU is far from perfect, as you point out. The fact is that all of its legitimate faults — and it has many, including waste, bureaucracy, inequality — hardly entered the debate, which instead seemed to revolve around highly suspect red herring tropes of immigration. As a dark-skinned immigrant to Europe myself, I am particularly devastated about the world into which I’ve brought my children and the future they’re likely to have now (because although we don’t live in the UK, as you know, this result has been and will continue to be encouraging to right-wing movements all across the EU. Marine Le Pen changed her twitter profile picture to the Union Jack on the day the referendum results came out). I was so hopeful 20 years ago when we were tearing down walls — the Berlin Wall, the Cold War, apartheid in South Africa — and now I am finding it impossible to be hopeful anymore. But I should follow your example and find joy and peace in my own very tiny corner of the world in which my family and I are in charge 🙂 . I know it’s really not my place to start arguments on someone else’s blog, so I will refrain from going on and on, but Sophie’s comment above makes me want to break down and weep. I’m not going to pick it apart point by point, but it is full of factual inaccuracies and fallacies, and I can only hope that subsequent readers and commenters will recognise them or do their own research.

    • Carie 30/06/2016 at 1:13 pm

      Be hopeful my dear friend – never ever give up hope. Underneath the crazy noisy Farages were people voting Leave truly wanting what was best for their communities and their country whose decision I do not agree with, but whose motives I respect; the younger generations voted in increasing percentages to work to build inclusion and keep those walls broken down, and the more we can stand up and say that while it might not be what we thought was best, we refuse to let it strip away our values and the inclusion that has made Britain a cosmopolitan sort of place from the Norman Conquest onwards, the more we can make it work. It wasn’t what I wanted, for my generation or for my children but I refuse to let the country that I love become a place of which I am ashamed, and I know I’m not the only one!

  • Preeta 30/06/2016 at 5:07 pm

    Thank you for your kind, cheering words 🙂 . It is true what you say about the younger generation; I’ll try to hold on to that. I do know that there were people who voted Leave who wanted what was best for their communities, and believe, my heart breaks for those communities too, because when some have so much, there is no reason, no excuse, why they should be where they are. The inequality is obscene. But what really distresses me is that those communities were failed by the Remain campaign, by the media, and by their countrymen, if they thought this was the solution. The destruction of those communities and regions was already irreversible 30 years ago, and should not be blamed on the EU or on immigration. But here I go, back on my soapbox when I promised not to get on it here. No no no. Beautiful pictures of your family!

  • LauraCYMFT 30/06/2016 at 8:42 pm

    These are lovely photos! Pip must be taking after Daddy with his love of the hockey stick!

  • Louise (Little Hearts, Big Love) 01/07/2016 at 9:15 am

    I love your photos this month – the way Pip is holding on to the hockey stick and that final photo with you all grouped around the swing. It’s nice to have that moment of normality in the craziness of the current situation – your description of it feeling like we have fallen down the rabbit hole is a very good one. I was also in the remain camp with similar reasons to you and the hatred that we’ve seen on social media in the last week has been quite horrific – hopefully we can start to move forward soon and work together in a positive way.

  • JoanneLloyd 01/07/2016 at 7:19 pm

    Hi Carie,

    I voted out. Ironically I am the child of immigrants: my father was Jewish. I have been absolutely appalled at the increase in racism since the referendum. I did not vote out for that reason. There is never ever an excuse for racism anywhere. Ever. I, an “outer” most certainly am not racist. And I’m not going to go into why I voted out… that time has passed and I don’t think hashing over it all is helpful a week on.

    Equally however I have been really saddened by some of the comments that have kept surfacing on social media (and amongst my daughter’s university educated friends) that those who have not had the privilege of a good education ( although they just say “the less educated”) should not have the right to vote. Men and women in the 19th and 20th centuries fought so so hard to obtain the work for ALL adults. They would be turning in their graves at the intolerance expressed on all sides over the last week.

    I repeat I’m horrified by the racism that has reared its ugly head and I am beyond sad about that… but I’m also horrified by the anti democratic sentiments being expressed too.

    I so hope that as Louise above says we can all start to work together soon. We all have to pull together.

    Jo

  • Jenny 01/07/2016 at 9:18 pm

    Brilliant Photos babes you have to be the funnest family on the block for sure. Loving this months. Hope July is better weather for us all so we can get outdoors like this and have more fun. #meandmineproject

  • Helen | Wonderfully Average 01/07/2016 at 9:27 pm

    I feel exactly the same about Brexit. I was absolutely gutted the following day and am still worried about the legacy it will leave for our children. The way it has legitimised a small minority of people’s racist views also makes me feel quite sick.

    On a happier note, I love that Kitty voted ‘leave’ because you need to leave the classroom to go to Europe! And how grown up is Pip getting?! Gorgeous photos as always xx

  • lucy at dear beautiful 02/07/2016 at 11:42 am

    It’s been a hard and confusing time. Like you, everyone I spoke to voted Remain, and so the result kind of blindsided me a little. I feel like it’s probably one of the biggest things to happen in our life time, and the uncertainty scares me a lot. But like you’ve said about your photos being a marker of normality, I’m just trying to carry on carrying on. It’s a hard pill to swallow when it isn’t what you wanted and when it could have such an affect on your life, but at the same time there is seemingly nothing we can do to change it now.
    I love your photos though, they are the epitome of normal happy family life and are what we have to focus on, because it’s what matters most. x

  • Katy (What Katy Said) 02/07/2016 at 8:26 pm

    I think that is what we can all do at the moment, hold on to the constants, hold onto the love and just make our own little corner of the world a happy one. Lovely photos as always. #meandmineproject xx