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Time used wisely

18/10/2015

Since I’ve been back at work I’ve taken two holiday days.  The first was for the MADs and as it was the second day back in the office I’m not really counting it.  The second, that is therefore really the first, was Thursday.

I went to London and I went to Blogcamp Vibe.

On paper it sounds totally bonkers. Every day when I get up and go to work I leave a little (well quite a big) piece of me behind.  My H, my best friend, manfully getting to grips with running the house and multitasking the children, my beautiful girls who are just so chatty and so much fun right now, and my darling Pip Squeak who despite being a whole 13 and a half months old is still very very much my baby. Surely if I was going use a precious day off it would be to spend more time with them.

Space for the Butterflies - Time used wisely

But instead I got up, got on a train and went out for the day. And it was a good thing.  Not just because Blogcamp was a lot of fun (which it was) but because sometimes I think it’s good to be selfish. Well sort of selfish; the sort of selfish that isn’t actually selfish at all.

Let me explain. As parents our families come first.  Front and centre first, H, Kitty, Elma and Pip, and then because I have a full time job, that comes second, and when I was a stay at home Mum on maternity leave running the house came second; they’re both activities that contribute to the overall happiness of the family either in the income that buys more milk or making sure there’s actually milk in the fridge.

And Carie? Well she comes third.  Blogging, writing, knitting, sewing, quilting, baking, photography, reading books in the bath and getting out into the great outdoors all have to fit around work and family in that elusive and largely non existent “me time” box.

I’m not trying to overturn the order, for me that’s how my priorities should generally look, but I think that if I’m too rigid, in a sort of “eat your peas before you have your pudding” kind of way, then I’m never going to get to the pudding, life will always take over and if I’m too relaxed and just wait for it to happen then again, life will take over.  If we’re going to stretch the analogy to breaking point then I’m also in danger of losing enthusiasm for the peas (the job shaped ones anyway).

And that’s what I love about signing up to go to a blogging conference, or going on an Instameet, or taking a quilting workshop; it forces me to take that time that is for me, and I know it does me good.

Selfish because it is a whole day that’s just me me me but not really because I come back recharged, fired up and ready to dive back into life.

Space for the Butterflies - Time used wisely

This is the first Blogcamp that I’ve been to that wasn’t in Birmingham, and the first that had a bit of a theme beyond just ‘Blogging is Awesome’.  It had quite a different feel to it even to previous Blogcamps, and it worked really well.

Every single session was thought provoking, interesting and sparked ideas and inspiration, especially the ones that would seem the least relevant.  I’m unlikely to ever want to manufacture and sell a product, but hearing how the mifold booster seat went from canvas and karabiner prototype to something very clever and slick that’s actually selling was fascinating, and the same is true about hearing how Roco Runs got started, or 24Me, or Zeek, or just Vibe Israel itself.  Hearing people who love what they do tell their story always helps me to remember why I’m passionate about the things that I do and the plans I’ve got for the future.

And because Blogcamp was a much smaller group than the might of BritMums or Blogtacular it meant that the sessions could easily open up into more of a group conversation.  The session on blogging as a business, which I think was largely billed as being about accounting, turned into a great conversation about different styles of blogging, different ways in which people earn money, and sparked a whole heap of thoughts and conversations that spilled over into the tea break.

But lovelier than that, lovelier even than Lucy’s session on Instagram (which was as brilliant as you would expect), was spending time with people who I usually only get to see at the other end of a computer screen and putting faces to the names that pop up in my Instagram and Twitter feeds. I discussed the merits of savoury breakfast muffins or lack thereof with Katy, realise just how cute the combination of little girl and Shetland pony can be in talking to Aby, and to catch up with Amber, and Chloe and Bex and meet the very adorable Baby Finn, who gurgled most obligingly while his ‘aunties’ Amber and Carie tried to entertain him with funny faces and peekaboo.

So thank you Tots100 and Vibe Israel for a much needed and very awesome day out.

Space for the Butterflies - Time used wisely

And to Pip, who still gave me cuddles when I came home.

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  • Amber 18/10/2015 at 8:10 am

    I’m very glad that you enjoyed your pudding on this occasion! It was super fun to see you again and to catch up properly this time – I loved our little ‘naughty corner’.

    • Carie 18/10/2015 at 11:40 pm

      The Naughty corner was a lot of fun – and we were talking about things provoked by the speakers discussion, it counts 🙂

  • Potty Mouthed Mummy 18/10/2015 at 8:39 am

    A fab post. You sum it up perfectly here. And you’re right, we do need time for ourselves here and there which often sounds selfish. But often really isn’t x

    • Carie 18/10/2015 at 11:39 pm

      I think it isn’t, it’s just the mummy guilt pressure thing acting up again to make us feel guilty!

  • sustainablemum 18/10/2015 at 10:32 am

    I think me time is really important however it looks in your life. We need to recharge ourselves too, it sounds like your day out did just that!

    • Carie 18/10/2015 at 11:38 pm

      It really did, it was so much fun!

  • Donna 18/10/2015 at 4:01 pm

    It sounds like you had a great day and like you I try to take those days for myself every so often as otherwise I wouldn’t have time for me at all x

    • Carie 18/10/2015 at 11:38 pm

      It’s true, it’s funny how life changes so quickly – time definitely runs faster than I would like it to!

  • Kim 18/10/2015 at 8:20 pm

    Sounds like you had a great day. We all need to take those days for ourselves, to recharge, and to fill our buckets 🙂

    • Carie 18/10/2015 at 11:37 pm

      We do, but isn’t it just so easy for that to slip to the bottom of the list!

  • Helen | Wonderfully Average 18/10/2015 at 11:30 pm

    I often feel guilty doing things for myself, but you’re right it’s so important to do these things sometimes, otherwise you can get burnt out by always putting everything else first. Beautiful pictures of you and Pip 🙂 xx

  • You Baby Me Mummy 19/10/2015 at 8:55 am

    It was so lovely to see you, I am so glad you got a day to just be you. We all need it sometimes x

  • Chantal Milk&Nappies 19/10/2015 at 7:01 pm

    Oh it sounds like you had a wonderful time, we all need some me time now and again. I couldn’t agree with you more about the way you see it, and I too have taken some time this week away from home to do things just for me. I think that it makes me a better mother, because after that break I can’t wait to get back to being with my boy! xx

  • Mummy Vs Work 21/10/2015 at 1:26 pm

    Your so right, time for yourself is important. My time is always when the kids go to bed and for such a long time we used to make sure they went to bed at 7 every night, just so we can have some “us time” where we didn’t have to think about day to day life and don’t feel bad about slouching in front of the tv for the night!

    Sounds like a good trip 🙂

  • Katie @mummydaddyme 22/10/2015 at 8:58 pm

    Ah I love this post Carie and it sounds like you had a great day at BlogCamp. I still remember all those years ago when we first met and had that photo taken with the silly wigs on. How things have changed since then. I do completely agree with you though, I need to be a little selfish every now and again. And I can bet after a day away from my brood that I am itching to get home to them. Plus I have recharged my batteries and that can never be a bad thing. x

  • Claire at Tin Box Traveller 01/11/2015 at 10:53 pm

    Great write up of the day. One of the most important things I took away was that I need to organise my time better so everyone gets a piece of me…including me! Hurrah for Carie time 🙂

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