Elma Family Kitty Living Arrows

Living Arrows 2015: 8/52


My girls seem to have a bit of an obsession with beds.  Not their own beds you understand, not that would be a moment of great wonder, amazement and worthy of some sort of parade, but with making little beds for their teddies and babies.

Elma will tuck her teddies into her toy pram and dash up and down the hall with them, ostensibly to help them to sleep, and Kitty will rock her baby, give it a kiss and then tuck it gently in.  Sometimes it’s one of her pillows and a jumper, or a couple of blankets off her bed or a cushion off the sofa and the blanket Pip snuggles under in the car.


And quite impressively one day the girls brought down all their pillows and both duvets and proceeded to tuck up every single teddy they could find in one long snuggly row.

I love popping back into the lounge and finding a dolly carefully tucked up for a nap and then abandoned in search of the next great adventure.

There are days when parenting is really hard, when it feels like nothing you do or say is having any influence whatsoever, when the hours are full of “please don’t”, “stop now”, and “your sister is not a toy” and you wonder whether they’re forever destined to be harumscarums .  But then I see how they treat their babies with gentleness; lovingly and sweetly taking care of them and tucking them up for a sleep, and I’m so proud of them.  I just want to scoop them both up and give them the most enormous hugs, to hold them close.  It’s one of those moment when the fierceness of my love for them comes barrelling through, wiping out the frustrations of a morning in a heartbeat.

Because if they’re loving and doting on their babies that can only be because that’s what they see and know to copy.  H and I have loved them from the minute we first knew they were on their way, but we aren’t their only role models and it’s not just us they’re copying, it’s the rest of our families, our friends and their nursery staff.  From Elma’s first nursery key worker whose name was the first she learnt outside of the family, to a very special honorary auntie who takes the girls for squash and biscuits at the end of church each week.  A whole host of people who love them, cherish them, and will make sure that they’re happy and fed and tucked up snug.  And with role models like that they won’t go far wrong.



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  • sustainablemum 23/02/2015 at 7:52 am

    It sounds like you have found the perfect community to raise your children 🙂

    • Carie 23/02/2015 at 9:41 pm

      I hope so – so far so good 🙂

  • Debby 23/02/2015 at 10:26 am

    It’s lovely when you see those little peeks into who they are, and who they are going to be. Then you know that you are doing a good job and that all the hard work and heart ache that go along with being a parent is worthwhile. It sounds like you belong to a wonderful charing community.
    Keep up the good work.

    • Carie 23/02/2015 at 9:39 pm

      thank you – we’re definitely very lucky with some of the people around us, we really landed on our feet when we moved here 🙂

  • Debby 23/02/2015 at 10:27 am

    whoops…”charing community? ahem…”caring community”


  • Karen 23/02/2015 at 12:24 pm

    Aaahh what a gorgeous post. It always amazes me how Daisy bops her sisters over the head, snatches things and screams at them but then tucks her babies up gently and quietly sings or talks to them x

    • Carie 23/02/2015 at 9:37 pm

      It’s one of the many many mysteries of little ones isn’t it!

  • You Baby Me Mummy 23/02/2015 at 3:34 pm

    Such a lovely shot x

    • Carie 23/02/2015 at 9:36 pm

      thank you 🙂

  • Polka Dot Family 23/02/2015 at 4:21 pm

    It’s so very lovely to watch children nurture their dollies and pretend to be mums and dads.

    • Carie 23/02/2015 at 9:35 pm

      isn’t it just!

  • Merlinda Little 23/02/2015 at 5:29 pm

    I think you are right, this is what they see so this is what they try to do as well. What a cute play! #livingarrows

    • Carie 23/02/2015 at 9:35 pm

      thank you 🙂

  • sally 23/02/2015 at 5:46 pm

    Such lovely play. I thought when I first saw a tiny version of that first photo on my feed that it was Pip tucked up – and I bet they would/do tuck Pip up just so sweetly.

    • Carie 23/02/2015 at 9:34 pm

      They do if they can – but he’s not quite as biddable as baby!

  • Rachel @ The Ordinary Lovely 23/02/2015 at 7:48 pm

    Oh yes, Carie, definitely. Both my boys, when they get out of bed in the morning, tuck their teddies in, kiss them and tell them to have a happy sleep. They might be little terrors for the rest of the day but it all starts so very sweetly (if a little bit early, for my liking).

    • Carie 23/02/2015 at 9:34 pm

      Aww that’s so sweet!!!

  • hena tayeb 23/02/2015 at 8:44 pm

    aww that is sweet

    • Carie 23/02/2015 at 9:32 pm

      thank you 🙂

  • gemma stevens 23/02/2015 at 10:05 pm

    Sound like a lovely play time. My son likes to tuck his teddies into his bed but doesn’t leave any room for himself to go to sleep. Its quite sweet to watch though.

    • Carie 24/02/2015 at 10:45 pm

      Aww isn’t that just the way – it amazes me how they fit into bed sometimes!

  • Jess @ Picnics in the Rain 23/02/2015 at 10:23 pm

    Beautiful post Carie – your children are a real credit to you, your husband and your wider family/friends. It’s amazing the things they pick up on and copy, and the fact this is what your girls do with their dolls and teddies is just so wonderful 🙂

    • Carie 24/02/2015 at 9:54 pm

      Aww thank you, you’re very sweet!

  • Sian 25/02/2015 at 11:17 pm

    What a beautiful moment! It’s lovely when these sweet things happen amid the chaos and you remember what’s important. Sounds like you are a wonderful nurturing role model!

    • Carie 28/02/2015 at 8:52 pm

      thank you 🙂

  • Claire @ Clarina's Contemplations 26/02/2015 at 8:35 pm

    So sweet Carie! My girls are just the same 🙂

    • Carie 28/02/2015 at 8:45 pm

      It’s so sweet isn’t it 🙂

  • Alexandra @dontcallmestepmummy 28/02/2015 at 6:18 am

    How lovely, it’s so lovely when that lightbult moment hits and you realise, actually, yeah, I must be doing something right lol. This a great capture and my friends little girls are very much like this. Our five year old was the opposite of this, she’d throw the dolls around with no regard. haha, not what she saw here and I hope not what she saw at nursery. I remember thinking it was funny, my friends little girls were tucking up their dolls all cute and Shayla was like ‘no, the monster is coming to eat off their face’ haha, we didn’t know where to look. Children are so funny. Great photo, precious memories #livingarrows

    • Carie 28/02/2015 at 8:26 pm

      It’s funny what they choose to copy and what they completely ignore isn’t it!

  • Hayley at Shutterflies 01/03/2015 at 3:18 pm

    “Your sister is not a toy” really cracked me up. It sounds like you have a very lively and happy home x