Family Kitty Photography {the ordinary moments}

Whoops, I’m a puddle!

16/11/2014

Once upon a time I had a little shadow and her name was Kitty.  In some respects it seems like a lifetime ago that it was just Kitty, H and me, though in reality it was less than a couple of years ago.

Space for the Butterflies - an eclectic handmade family life

She and I were inseparable; wherever Mummy was, that was where Kitty wanted to be, to have a bumped knee kissed better, to snuggle up for a story, or to be gently lulled to sleep in my arms.  She enjoyed playing with H don’t get me wrong, but if there was a choice it was all about Mummy.

And I loved it.  I loved being able to pour all of my focus and energy into her happiness; playing silly games for hours, dancing around the room with her in my arms, or sitting watching her sleep marvelling at the miracle that made her my little girl.

She’s still and always will be my best biggest girl but I think the intense closeness of early babyhood will always dissipate a little as our babies grow.  For one thing, as they develop and grow they begin to be able to do more and more for themselves and become less dependant on us, and at the same time the ability to question and test and challenge kicks in.

Space for the Butterflies - an eclectic handmade family life

And then in our case Elma arrived and our relationship had to stretch and grow to encompass another little girl, and now a little brother too.

It means that in our daily life we’re balancing the needs of three little people; that there are times when everyone has to wait; that sometimes I can’t give Kitty or Elma or Pip my full undivided attention, or do something that appeals to them and them alone.  Sometimes it’s easy to accept that that’s just how it is, and remember the benefits that we gave them in having siblings, and not just that I have to share myself out, and sometimes, as I launch another futile effort at dividing myself into three, I wonder whether our choice to have more children pushed her affection from me to H, and took more away from our relationship than can simply be attributed to Kitty’s growing independence.

And then every now and then I catch a glimmer that reminds me of those early days; a little moment shared just between us that tells me that however big or tall my biggest girl has got that relationship is still there and still just as strong and close as ever, just stretched to encompass all our love for her siblings.

I saw it in her eyes this week, and the peals of laughter that followed.

Space for the Butterflies - an eclectic handmade family life

We were learning a few new wintery action songs, and settled on I’m a Little Snowman (to the tune of I’m a Little Teapot)

I’m a Little Snowman, short and fat
Here’s my broomstick, here’s my hat
When the sun comes up I’ll melt away
Down, down, down, down
Whoops, I’m a puddle!

Pip was snoozing; Elma thought it funny when we all wibbled and wobbled down to the floor but isn’t old enough to either memorise or truly understand the words; and that left Kitty and me.

We sang and ‘melted’ and sang again, and giggled and laughed until it got to the point that we were both lying on the lounge floor next to each other, trying not to smile until the other would just say “whoops, I’m a puddle” or even just “whoops!” and the giggles would start up again; laughing until our sides ached. Space for the Butterflies - an eclectic handmade family life

It’s hardly ground breaking is it; ‘mother of three makes daughter laugh’, and even for Kitty I suspect it was just one moment of a bit of fun in amongst a whole heap of happy memories for that day but I treasure it; a memory of shared laughter and happiness, of finding a way to make that connection and keep that closeness alive in the middle of our busy family day.

 

You Might Also Like

  • Seychellesmama 16/11/2014 at 7:45 am

    Awww goodness this has made me a bit emotional!!! A teeny tiny moment but I can see how special it was for you, and i think all of us who write the ordinary moments posts will totally get why it’s so special!!!
    Gorgeous!!
    Xx

    • Carie 16/11/2014 at 10:10 pm

      thank you 🙂

  • mylittledreamworld1 16/11/2014 at 9:18 am

    Beautiful post. I love the way you have written this memory. I have two girls and try to give them both what they need, but like you, there are times when it is great to have a bit of item with just one of them and do something simple but special xxx

    • Carie 16/11/2014 at 10:11 pm

      thank you 🙂

  • sally 16/11/2014 at 10:40 am

    Ahhh, ordinary moments like that are very special. And even if Kitty doesn’t fully appreciate what makes it special in your eyes, I’m sure moments like these build up to create special relationships and general memories of those relationships.

    • Carie 16/11/2014 at 10:12 pm

      I hope so!

  • Betty and the Bumps 16/11/2014 at 7:23 pm

    Such a sweet post and unbelievable photography.

    Also, I am a name freak, and Kitty, Elma and Pip? Amaze!

    x

    #theordinarymoments

    • Carie 16/11/2014 at 10:13 pm

      Thank you – though I’m afraid to burst your bubble – they aren’t the children’s real names, just some internet pseudonyms – though I agree they’re awesome names!

  • Donna 16/11/2014 at 8:50 pm

    Oh she is so beautiful and you can see the laughter in her eyes. Those are the moments I would love to bottle and keep forever x

    • Carie 16/11/2014 at 10:13 pm

      thank you – they’re some of my favourite pictures that I’ve taken of her of late!

  • Caroline (Becoming a SAHM) 16/11/2014 at 8:51 pm

    Sounds like a very lovely moment to me and definitely one to treasure! Monkey has definitely got a bit closer to daddy since Little Miss was born, and it is so lovely when he and I get to have some 1on1 time together! Xx

    • Carie 16/11/2014 at 10:17 pm

      It definitely does make it all the more special when you get those moments again – though I wouldn’t swap for the world!

  • Katie 16/11/2014 at 9:45 pm

    She looks SO happy – and that’s all that matters, keeping them happy as much as possible 🙂 Sounds like you had a great time together! xx

    • Carie 16/11/2014 at 10:18 pm

      We just couldn’t stop giggling for ages, it was very silly and just so much fun!

  • Becky | Spirited Puddle Jumper 16/11/2014 at 9:56 pm

    Aaaw such a lovely post, Carie! And Kitty is a total cutie in these pics 🙂 I often feel torn in two time-wise with just two little ones to deal with, and I love it when F and I have some 1-2-1 time together. I often feel he had to grow up too fast as S arrived when he was only just 15 months, but I hope he knows he will always be my baby.

    • Carie 16/11/2014 at 10:20 pm

      Thank you 🙂 I really hope all three of mine know that they will always be my babies, even when they get all big and grown up!

  • Katie @mummydaddyme 16/11/2014 at 10:30 pm

    This made me cry bucket loads of tears Carie- I am a bit tired and over emotional this weekend because of feeling poorly due to this sickness thing I have had for the last almost 10 months, but this made me honestly just weep.
    What a beautiful post dedicated to your big girl and look at the way she is smiling and the sunshine is bouncing off her hair. I only have two but I know the feeling well of dividing your time and also the feeling that you are losing that closeness, well not losing it but it just changes. x

    • Carie 20/11/2014 at 11:41 pm

      Oh no! No crying!! I hope it’s just that it’s changing – I really don’t want to loose the closeness I had with baby Kitty now she’s four year old Kitty – but I’ll admit it was easier to feel closer when their ability to be mischievous was more limited!!

  • Natalie @ Little Jam Pot Life Blog 17/11/2014 at 11:12 am

    Beautiful post Carie, I can also join the club when I say it got me in tears! It’s such a hard balance to find sometimes isn’t it? (we have two girls, and a little boy all 4 & under) so i can completely sympathise with the |having the share yourself three ways”, but the moments you catch with them alone, maybe when others are sleeping or simply happy playing with Daddy or someone – it makes you realise that even though having more children has and always will make your eldest adapt, and seem to grow faster than they should, it balances out well when you do share those little moments, it makes them feel all the more special, and not only that, they have siblings that they will grow and love as they get bigger. (if that makes any sense at all, I’m terrible at writing lol!)

    Ps. thank you for your comments on my other posts. xx

    • Carie 20/11/2014 at 11:39 pm

      It makes perfect sense – especially from someone in the same trenches as me at the moment! And sorry for making you cry!!

  • Merlinda Little 18/11/2014 at 12:11 pm

    I love the simpleness of this activity but the pureness of her smile. My son smiles and laughs always makes me feel sane. Ordinary for me yet life saving in so many ways.

    • Carie 20/11/2014 at 11:29 pm

      thank you 🙂

  • Eline @ Pasta & Patchwork 20/11/2014 at 10:50 am

    Whoops this has made me cry a puddle over my keyboard too! In a good way though – it’s a lovely post and very heartening too. One of my biggest worries about having another baby (still only theoritically, I hasten to add) is how it’d affect my relationship with M. He is definitely my little shadow too at the moment! I find the idea that he might find room to love another little person as well as mummy (and daddy too of course) reassuring.

    • Carie 20/11/2014 at 11:21 pm

      Oh dear – I don’t want to make people cry!! And don’t worry, the relationship does just stretch and change I think, but it’s one of those things I’ll never really know how much changed because of the baby siblings and how much would have changed anyway 🙂