Elma Family Kitty Photography {the ordinary moments}

While Kitty was sleeping

17/08/2014

My everyday ordinary is life with two gorgeous, noisy, loving, squabbling, contented, messy, cheerful and usually brightly coloured little girls.  Elma may only be 20 months old but I find it hard to remember or imagine what life was like without her; back in those halcyon days of just parenting one child at a time.

I still get a little Kitty one on one time most days though while Elma naps and I try to make sure that those hours include lots of cuddles and chats with my biggest girl, the kind of craft activities that don’t really work out so well with a one year old baby sister in tow, and not too much of a whirlwind of chores (though you’d be amazed at how much fun cleaning the bathroom shower screen with a baby wipe is when you’re only 3).

But time alone with Elma is a very rare thing indeed, and usually the preserve of the days when she’s been too poorly to go to nursery, which isn’t exactly my definition of quality time with Mummy.

I’m sure it’s something H and I should make more of an effort with, but truth be told when we’re finally all together the weekend seems far to short a time to want to divide up; we’ve missed each other and the girls have missed their Daddy and all we all want to do is be together; the chances of either of us escaping out of the house with just one daughter without loud wails of protestation from the other (daughter that is, although possibly from the spouse too) is pretty much nil.

But every now and then a little moment of time lands in my lap.  Not organised, not planned, just a stolen hour on a showery afternoon when Kitty decided to have a nap and Elma didn’t.  Well “decided” is probably overdoing it; I was shattered, the girls seemed tired and we’d all curled up on the sofa after lunch with the sort of books I can read with my eyes shut and the next thing I knew was that I was opening my eyes without being quite sure how long they were closed for, Elma, curled into the crook of my left arm was contentedly sucking her thumb and poking the pages, and Kit was crashed out asleep on my right shoulder.

I thought she’d wake up as Elma and I extracated ourselves but she stayed there quite happily oblivious to her sister’s bumbling and chatter, one foot always sliding off the side of the sofa no matter how many times I tried to tuck her up.

I’d love to be able to say that we did something amazing and age appropriately life enriching in that hour; and that Elma is clearly a child prodigy (but of course she is and you knew that anyway) but I’m afraid it was really rather ordinary; we mixed up the dough for pitta bread to go with kebabs for supper and Elma sat on the kitchen footstool and ate breadsticks while I kneaded it; we played tea party for a bit; we sang Twinkle Twinkle and several rounds of Row Row Row the Boat with actions (that tiny girl rows with some serious gusto – I hope they pair her up with someone sturdy at nursery!); and we just chilled out, sat on the floor near the patio doors, watching as the rain clouds came and went, Elma lying on her back with her feet up on the door, tapping out a little jig and playing peekaboo from behind her beloved blankie.

Space for the Butterflies - an eclectic handmade family life

Space for the Butterflies - an eclectic handmade family life

Space for the Butterflies - an eclectic handmade family life

Space for the Butterflies - an eclectic handmade family life

Space for the Butterflies - an eclectic handmade family life

From the outside I know it seems like nothing special, the epitome of a mundane afternoon for a Staying at Home at the Moment Mama and her little girl, and I can only hope that in some way I can convey why I want to treasure it.

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  • Jess @ Along Came Cherry 17/08/2014 at 9:23 am

    Ah it sounds lovely and I can totally understand why you wanted to capture it. I always find the times where I give Tiger my full attention happen so rarely and are always so special. Even simple things like singing songs with him are such a rare occurrence when with Cherry it was pretty much all we did! x

    • Carie 17/08/2014 at 12:28 pm

      Us too – I was a one woman entertainment band when Kitty was smaller, but then I console myself that Elma might not get all that undivided Mummy attention but she does have her sister to play with – and from the looks of things, that’s a definite perk!

  • Emma Kershaw 17/08/2014 at 12:21 pm

    Aww lovely post! Sounds like you had a great afternoon, sometimes simple is best 🙂 #OrdinaryMoments

    • Carie 17/08/2014 at 12:27 pm

      Thank you – definitely a simple pleasures sort of afternoon, but a lot of fun too!

  • Potty Mouthed Mummy 17/08/2014 at 12:28 pm

    Beautiful pics. We’re the same about splitting up at the weekends. I even don’t like to book date nights or anything at weekends (though have to at times) because we just love to absorb all that missed family time. Your afternoon sounds lovely. Made me smile xx

  • Emily 17/08/2014 at 5:45 pm

    Oh, Carrie. An ordinary afternoon so eloquently recorded. You’ve painted a beautiful picture of motherhood!

    • Carie 17/08/2014 at 10:37 pm

      Aww thank you 🙂

  • Caroline (Becoming a SAHM) 17/08/2014 at 7:03 pm

    Aww sounds lovely, simple, calm, peaceful but fun. Lovely to get a little time just the two of you too. Very very lovely! Xx #ordinarymoments

    • Carie 17/08/2014 at 10:38 pm

      Simple, peaceful and fun sounds about right – definitely a happy hour!

  • jemma 17/08/2014 at 10:39 pm

    Gorgeous photos and such special memories. Well done for not filling the time with chores – I struggle with that! I am just going back to work after 3 and you are just starting the exciting journey – enjoy, enjoy, enjoy! And keep taking your stunning photos! xxx

    • Carie 18/08/2014 at 8:55 pm

      Aww thank you – they are definitely some of my favourite pictures of Elma right now

  • Katie @mummydaddyme 18/08/2014 at 9:04 pm

    You just write so beautifully Carie, for some reason this made me feel a little teary and emotional. Gorgeous photos of Elma and I know what you mean about the weekends, I always think I really want one on one time with my girls but when we actually get to the weekends, we all just really want to be together. x

  • Vickie Rich 18/08/2014 at 9:08 pm

    Just beautiful! An extraordinary ordinary moment. 🙂

  • sally 22/08/2014 at 8:47 pm

    Beautiful photos of Elma, and I’m sure it was special time for her too.

  • Eline @ Pasta & Patchwork 05/09/2014 at 9:24 am

    Reading this made me a bit teary! Obviously I only have one child so there are lots of times when I get him to myself compared to what you get with Elma, but even so: some days it all just falls into place and I have nothing to do but give him my undivided attention. Lovely, lovely moments, which you’ve captured so well.