Baby Family Kitty Photography {the ordinary moments}

Golden Moments of Cheesecake


In the last couple of weeks I’ve been answering the phone to my father with “it’s just me, no baby!” and I’m rather beginning to feel like I should be starting blog posts that way.  Suffice to say I’m still here, still pregnant, still working my way through my own personal list of natural methods of induction.

Kitty I suspect is finding this waiting rather trying.  First of all we told her that the baby was coming in the summer, then it got hot and there was no baby, and we told her that the baby was coming in August, and if I think it’s been August for ages imagine what it must feel like when you’re three.  If the Little Bump hangs on for too much longer she’s going to seriously start doubting that there’s ever going to be a baby.

So our lovely eldest girl has had a bit of a trying week.  The sort of week where the combination of being over tired from nursery and the uncertainty of everything except that things are on the cusp of change had rather brought on a pixie day and she needed a little cherishing and a lot of sleep.

And so if last week’s ordinary moment was a snatched hour with Elma, this week it was Kitty’s turn.  It stemmed from rather the same cause; she’s spent a good two hours fast asleep in the crook of H’s arm as he snooze-watched the cricket while Elma and I pottered around, and when we got to the end of supper we had one small daughter practically falling asleep into her mash, and another looking remarkably bright eyed, awake, and making a bid for it to be a pudding night.

We could have sent her up to bed with her sister; tucked her in with stories and kisses, and she’d probably have fallen asleep again fairly quickly, but where would be the fun in that.

So we loudly proclaimed it to be bedtime, and I scooped Elma up and took her upstairs to be pyjamaed and snuggled to sleep in my arms while the noises off from downstairs rather suggested that Kitty was being enticed into some serious tidying up and hoovering time on the basis of a promised pudding.  And by the time I came down again she and H had cleared supper, put the toys away, hoovered up the detritus of the day, and laid out three beautiful slices of cheesecake.

Space for the Butterflies - an eclectic handmade family life

Perched up on her chair next to me, wielding a fork and chattering ten to the dozen she was her very loveliest self.  It was a treat to H and me to jointly give her our attention without distraction, and as an eldest myself I remember how special it feels to do something that’s just for you, something that compensates a little for being held to that higher standard of our expectations for a three year old; to be just a daughter and, for once, not primarily a big sister.

Space for the Butterflies - an eclectic handmade family life

We talked about cheesecake, about how much Kitty likes going to the butchers with H because he will buy cheesecake and Mummy always says no, about her friend’s pirate party, and about the fun she had with Grandpa at the play park when he visited because he can lift her onto the zip wire.

Space for the Butterflies - an eclectic handmade family life

And when the clocked ticked around, and we got to a whole hour past her bedtime, we snuck upstairs, tiptoeing past a sleeping Elma, and I tucked her into bed and sat as she drifted off to sleep; a suddenly so small girl in flowery brushed cotton pyjamas curled up clutching my hand as she would a teddy.

Space for the Butterflies - an eclectic handmade family life

She’s going to be a big big sister before we realise (and very much hopefully by this time next week), and more than that she’s going to be the best big big sister; but life is going to change and be a bit crazy, at least at the start, and so I’m glad to have had that extra time with her; a moment for us both to remember on the pixie days.

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  • Emily 24/08/2014 at 7:32 am

    Carie, what a beautiful post. You’ve discovered a little piece of magic here. When little ones are granted the privilege of staying up past their bed time they ‘open up’. This happens with all of my boys – my oldest especially. You will need to employ this magical charm many times during your journey as a family! I’m so glad you had such a lovely evening with Kitty!

  • Jess @ Along Came Cherry 24/08/2014 at 8:25 am

    Oh this is so so lovely. It must seem like such a long time to wait for a baby to children, it feels like a long time for adults! Gorgeous photos too x

  • PottyMouthedMummy 24/08/2014 at 8:54 am

    Oh this is lovely, made me feel a bit emotional while reading. Kitty looks gorgeous and I love how much she is obviously enjoying this stolen moment with you both. It’s lovely. xxx

  • Katie @mummydaddyme 24/08/2014 at 3:08 pm

    What a beautiful post Carie and it made me get tears in my eyes. I have no doubt that Kitty treasured that little moment with her Mummy and Daddy just as much as you both did. And that she will make the best big big sister ever. (I must admit to checking your twitter every morning to see if there has been any news- hopefully he or she won’t keep you waiting too much longer!) x

  • Donna 24/08/2014 at 4:41 pm

    Such a lovely moment that you managed to steal with your eldest – it’s definitely important for them to have one on one time every so often, especially at the moment when as you say her life is about to change hugely.
    Lovely post – I cannot wait for baby news! x

  • Claire @ Clarina's Contemplations 25/08/2014 at 1:04 am

    As an eldest as well, I remember those special times of special treats where it was just me and my parents. It was always so precious to have that time, and I’m sure your cheesecake night is a memory you both, and Kitty, will savour. I suppose time alone with her will be tricky in the initial aftermath of baby’s arrival, but she will now have the lovely memory of this very special evening. A lovely, lovely post. Glad to be back in the country and reading your blog again (and selfishly I’m glad baby didn’t arrive while I was away! Don’t want to miss the announcement!!) Hope you aren’t feeling too fed up!

  • Caroline (Becoming a SAHM) 25/08/2014 at 1:06 pm

    Aww what a lovely post, gorgeous photos and a very special moment of time spent with your big girl. Hope baba doesn’t keep you waiting too much longer! xx #ordinarymoments

  • You Baby Me Mummy 25/08/2014 at 4:06 pm

    I am sure she will be the best big sister. What stunning photographs x #OrdinaryMoments

  • Little Button Diaries 25/08/2014 at 8:09 pm

    What lovely photographs. The camera t-shirt is great! x

  • Katy {What Katy Said} 26/08/2014 at 7:36 am

    This is so lovely! I am sure this memory will stay with her forever. #ordinarymoments

  • Becky | Spirited Puddle Jumper 26/08/2014 at 9:48 pm

    Such a lovely post and beautiful photos! I totally get what you mean about it being lovely to spend one-on-one time with your eldest. When Freddie is at preschool I get lots of 1-2-1 time with Sasha, but I do miss mine and F’s time together alone, it feels such a treat when we do have it, I really must try and fit it in more often. Here’s hoping baby comes soon for you!

  • Katie 26/08/2014 at 10:59 pm

    Such a lovely moment Carie 🙂 Always a treat being allowed to stay up a little later too. One on one time is so important, we should try to do it a lot more. Even if its just snippets here and there x

  • sally 26/08/2014 at 11:47 pm

    Lovely photos of Kitty, and so happy she’s had some special time now too. I’ve had to make sure I check in early this week to see if there’s any news!