Elma Exploring Family Kitty Photography Siblings

Siblings – in May

10/05/2014

Space for the Butterflies - an eclectic handmade family life

With Miss Elma having really found her feet this month, it’s been a lot of fun watching the girls’ relationship change and adjust to this new development.

Where once Kitty was the unquestioned leader, and Elma pretty much did as she was told, mainly because she was being told to sit and not move, now Elma can simply stand up, find her balance, and bumble off to do her own thing, without reference or permission of her big sister.

And rather than being frustrated with this turn of events, Kitty, seems to just stop whatever she’s doing and trail after Elma.

It makes for some interesting moments to say the least, especially when they both want something that we only have one of, like a go on the swing – Elma will stand in front of the swing shouting “eeep! Eeep! ‘Wing! ‘Wing!” when it’s Kitty’s go, and then Kitty will stand next to me as I push Elma chattering her way through every version of “Please Mummy, may I have a go on the swing” that she can possibly think of, in the hope that she’ll eventually hit on the magic variation that will get an instant yes.

They’re learning to share in a way that they haven’t had to before, and to give each other a bit of space to do their own thing, when Elma gets a little overwhelmed by Kitty’s embraces, or Kitty’s more fragile toys get a little overwhelmed by Elma!

Space for the Butterflies - an eclectic handmade family life

It seems that as they get older the age gap between them is narrowing rapidly. It seemed so huge between a two year old and my tiny fragile newborn, but when I see them sat playing Duplo together it seems like perhaps it isn’t all that much, and I think it will only appear closer when Little Bump arrives in the summer and as Elma’s odd words and babble turn into more and more recognisable communications.  It’s only when they both stand up that you realise how much taller Kitty is!

You always know as a parent, or parent-to-be that there’s no guarantee that your children will get along, no magic age gap or boy/girl combination that will be the key to unlock perpetual family harmony, you just have to hope, pray, and get really good at mediation.  But it is of course what we wanted for them, a sibling, a playmate, and in time I hope a dear friend, and it’s rather special, and rather a privilege to watch the first steps down that road. Fingers crossed.

Space for the Butterflies - an eclectic handmade family life

For this month’s photos we finally managed to visit the little woods not far from our village. I’d seen a hint of bluebell shoots the last time we were there and promised myself we’d be back but with one rainy day and another we hadn’t made it until now.  And what a sight it was to see; a blue haze as far as the eye could see, and that oh so gorgeous delicate scent rippling through the air.  Kitty was off at once down the path, with Elma toddling after her as fast as she could make her feet go on a bumpy path while holding onto Mama’s finger, desperate to catch up and not to miss out on any of the fun.

Space for the Butterflies - an eclectic handmade family life

They collected pine cones, and deposited them in H’s pocket, poked at the bluebells, picked up sticks, and Kitty asked H to please pass her a ‘stick’ that turned out to be a request for a fallen tree.  And with a little bribery and corruption, we even managed a few photos.  They aren’t studio perfect – but when are my pictures ever – the girls are usually far more interested in watching a squirrel, or Daddy, or thinking about trees, or whatever else goes through the minds of three and one year olds, than in wondering what’s going on with Mama and the camera, but I think I’d rather have it that way.  These pictures are my girls as they truly are, and that’s why I take pictures.

My darling girls, two little sisters, in April.

Space for the Butterflies - an eclectic handmade family life

For this month I’m sending you to Keri-Anne at the just blissfully beautiful Gingerlilytea. Keri-Anne’s style is always so gorgeous, I don’t know how she does it but the only way I can describe it is to say that her words and pictures are one of those things that remind you that all is well with the world, and reading her updates is always a real treat. I can’t wait to see her pictures. And if you’re tempted to join in too, what are you waiting for – the more the merrier!

dear beautiful



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  • The Reading Residence 10/05/2014 at 8:30 am

    It looks so pretty there, and the yellow outfits look just gorgeous in amongst the woodland. It’s interesting how the dynamics start to shift once the younger one gets more able – fun to see 🙂

    • Carie 11/05/2014 at 9:35 pm

      I think personality will come into play a bit, but certainly this slight narrowing gives Elma a bit more of a chance to hold her own!!

  • All about a Mummy 10/05/2014 at 8:46 am

    Gorgeous photos. I love the yellow outfits against the bluebells. #siblings

    • Carie 11/05/2014 at 9:34 pm

      Thank you very much – they do look rather appropriately Spring-like don’t they!

  • Keri-Anne 10/05/2014 at 10:23 am

    These are just gorgeous photographs! I love love love that one of them sitting on the log together. xxx

    • Carie 11/05/2014 at 9:34 pm

      Thank you – we were trying so hard to persuade Elma to smile but she was much more interested in trying to wander off!

  • Keri-Anne 10/05/2014 at 10:24 am

    And thank you for the sweet words about my blog 🙂 x

    • Carie 11/05/2014 at 9:33 pm

      Well you’re welcome!

  • lucy at dear beautiful 10/05/2014 at 11:16 am

    These photos are beautiful. I love their yellow outfits against the bluebells and the greenery. It can associate so much with your words too; my little lady starting to walk was a big turning point in their relationship between my two. They became more equal I think. And I agree that the gap between them seems to get smaller the older they get. x

    • Carie 11/05/2014 at 9:32 pm

      Aww, thank you 🙂 I wonder whether the age gap is going to stretch out again once we hit the next few milestone like the year they start school, or whether it will never be quite as big as when the littler ones were newborn?

  • Chloe (Sorry About The Mess) 10/05/2014 at 11:40 am

    Ah, I can see this being my two in a couple of months. Looking forward to seeing how their relationship changes once Rory can toddle off and do his own thing!

    • Carie 11/05/2014 at 9:28 pm

      It’s definitely made more of a difference than I think I was expecting, but I’m not quite sure what I was expecting!!

  • Lauren 10/05/2014 at 2:17 pm

    These are beautiful photos. Kitty looks so sweet helping out her little sister.
    I agree about it being a worry about whether or not our children will get on, be friends, best friends or even like each other. It all changes once the youngest one gets on the move, either crawling or walking doesn’t it? More so for the bigger one as they have to adjust to so much more I think x

    • Carie 11/05/2014 at 5:32 pm

      Maybe that’s why human babies don’t start off walking – with the first it’s so that the parents can get used to parenting and with the second it’s for the benefit of their bigger siblings!!

  • Mammasaurus 10/05/2014 at 6:07 pm

    Such pretty shots, those bluebells are just the perfect Spring time backdrop x

    • Carie 11/05/2014 at 5:31 pm

      Aren’t they just – and unsurprisingly very popular – it seems to have been the month of bluebell backdrops!!

  • Jenny 10/05/2014 at 7:27 pm

    Ahhh their gorgeous yellow spring outfits are to die for a just pop against the bluebells. Everyone seems to be sitting amongst the bluebells and I have yet to find any near me. Boo Love these photos. Little explorers! #siblings

    • Carie 11/05/2014 at 5:30 pm

      It’s taken me a few years to find these ones – perhaps there’s hope for us all!

  • Otilia 10/05/2014 at 8:06 pm

    How pretty! You are so lucky to have such a beautiful forest close by!

    • Carie 11/05/2014 at 5:29 pm

      Thank you – it’s been really improved in the last few years so that it’s got paths and a bit of space to walk in and it’s really lovely now.

  • Caroline 10/05/2014 at 9:05 pm

    Oh these are so lovely! I love the yellow. So sweet to see Elma walking in the woods no less:)

    • Carie 11/05/2014 at 5:27 pm

      I know – it only seems minutes since she took her first steps!

  • older mum in a muddle 11/05/2014 at 10:23 am

    These pictures are stunning…. they are so beautiful together and I love how you dressed them both in the same colour! X

    • Carie 11/05/2014 at 5:22 pm

      Thank you – they were Easter presents from their grandparents, and they’re gorgeous outfits!

  • rebecca@hopesheritage 11/05/2014 at 3:50 pm

    what beautiful little friends they are. lovely photos

    • Carie 11/05/2014 at 5:11 pm

      thank you so much 🙂

  • Jess @ Along Came Cherry 11/05/2014 at 8:35 pm

    These are absolutely gorgeous, I love their outfits too! x

    • Carie 11/05/2014 at 9:12 pm

      Thank you – I think they’re some of my favourite too – they’re definitely going in the print-me pile!

  • Sonia 11/05/2014 at 8:50 pm

    Beautiful photos of two beautiful girls in a beautiful setting x

    • Carie 11/05/2014 at 9:12 pm

      Thank you very much 🙂

  • The mummy madness 11/05/2014 at 9:03 pm

    what beautiful pictures cant beat a bluebell pic 🙂

    • Carie 11/05/2014 at 9:13 pm

      Thank you – they’re such beautiful flowers and the only way to really enjoy them in en masse isn’t it!

  • Kriss MacDonald 12/05/2014 at 4:58 am

    Beautiful – love the yellow outfits amongst the bluebelles. #siblings

    • Carie 12/05/2014 at 8:30 am

      Thank you very much 🙂

  • Actually Mummy 12/05/2014 at 9:38 am

    Gosh that yellow in the bluebells is just amazing! I really must start to pay attention to complemeting colours in my photos (if I can get my kids to wear something of my choice that is!)

    • Carie 12/05/2014 at 10:02 pm

      Thank you 🙂 – their outfits were Easter presents from their grandparents so I think the newness factor rather helped!

  • Katie @mummydaddyme 12/05/2014 at 8:57 pm

    These are beautiful photos Carie, I love the yellow (yellow is my FAVOURITE!) next to the bluebells. They look gorgeous. x

    • Carie 12/05/2014 at 9:51 pm

      Thank you 🙂 – I love it when a vision of a picture comes together almost just as you’d planned (in my head they were both looking at the camera!!)

  • Jess @ Catch A Single Thought 13/05/2014 at 11:50 am

    I love that they are wearing matching colours; the yellow looks so lovely against the bluebells. There are two years between my two and it’s such a nice age gap. My youngest is now three and they play together so nicely (most of the time!) #siblings

    • Carie 13/05/2014 at 9:32 pm

      I’m sure I’d love whatever age gap I got, but I do like how the two years is panning out between our two – fingers crossed it works as well for Little Bump!

  • Karen 14/05/2014 at 1:51 pm

    Just beautiful! It’s lovely as they get a bit older and the age difference doesn’t seem as big x

    • Carie 15/05/2014 at 7:09 am

      Aww thank you 🙂