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Siblings 2015: May


As we get further and further along this path of parenting three children I’m starting to realise just how different for the children it is being a part of a three, rather than a two.  I’m the eldest of two sisters, and when there are just two of you there’s one sibling relationship, and that’s it.  Where we grew up was fairly rural and as we didn’t go to school in the area and our parents’ friends didn’t have many children of similar ages we were by and large each other’s chief companions through childhood and into the teenage years.  It is I suspect at least part of the reason why we are so close now, we have a lot of shared history to fall back on, and why we would always make up again after a childhood falling out, we needed each other for company.  Because when you’re a two you’re either friends or not friends, you have a companion, or your on your own.

Space for the Butterflies - an eclectic handmade life

But a trio is so much more complex.  All of this is old hat to H who is the middle of three siblings, but it’s been really interesting watching the different relationships come to life as Pip gets bigger.  And it’s not just that they have something between them that is entirely outside of me (which I love), but Kitty has her relationship with Elma, and then one with Pip, and Elma and Pip have their own thing, and then you have the three of them together.

Space for the Butterflies - an eclectic handmade life

Kitty and Elma have a very familiar sisterly relationship, Kitty can lead and Elma follow, if she wants to, and sometimes I’ll find Elma cornering her sister with threats of Rapunzel-esque hair brushing, other times the squeals are from Elma because Kitty is roaring at her, and most of the time the soundtrack to my days is their happy conversation.  This morning they were playing aeroplanes on the sofa so we had lots of ‘packing’ and ‘steering’ while I was cleaning the kitchen floor, and then when they wanted to come and join me and I enquired about the progress of their flight they told me it was on auto-pilot.  They are happy right up until the point that they’re not and then they both need to spend a little time apart before they can make up and move on.

Space for the Butterflies - an eclectic handmade life

And where Pip is concerned, Kitty is the best big sister bar none.  She’s responsible enough that I’ll happily ask her to hold him and stop him escaping if we’re in the garden and the front door bell rings, or Elma shouts for assistance, and that generally means that she’ll give him enormous cuddles and call him “my little darling” until I get back.  He adores her, he will giggle if she tickles his tummy and frequently makes a bid to grab her hair. She’s strong enough to cart him around too and I do sometimes find them both in surprising places – like Pip at the top of our garden slide (!!!) – but she had him by both hands and he slid down with the biggest smile ever so I think thanks to his biggest sister we’ve just found him a new toy.

Space for the Butterflies - an eclectic handmade life

Pip and Elma are still rather in their own little bubbles, they are aware of each other of course, although sometimes that’s rather in the sense of aware that the other one has Mama and they want Mama. Or more accurately they both want milk.  And my sweet little Elma tends to be the one asked to wait, which might explain why she’s so very very keen on Daddy at the moment.  But while they are still finding their way there is always one moment of utter sweetness.  When they’re both nursing at the same time I’ll often find they’ve found each other’s hands, or Pip is stroking Elma’s hair and it’s so adorable.  And of course completely impossible to photograph.  I’m quite determined that before Elma weans I get a photo of all of us nursing but that one will definitely not be going on the internet.

And then there’s the three of them together.  And perhaps all I need to say is that sometimes it looks like this:

Space for the Butterflies - an eclectic handmade life

And sometimes a bit more like this:


Space for the Butterflies - an eclectic handmade life

Space for the Butterflies - an eclectic handmade life

The pictures were taken on Wednesday evening, it was such a beautiful day we sprung Kitty from nursery a little earlier than usual and as H had a post-work appointment with the golf course the four of us packed a picnic and headed up to our favourite spot for supper.  It was glorious.  We had the windmill almost entirely to ourselves and we sat and ate looking out over field after field of sunshine yellow and the deepest of peerless blue skies.  The girls ran and jumped, Pip rolled over and over and tried to eat the grass and as the clock ticked nearer to bedtime and the sun started to sink we strolled down the hill and headed home for PJs, a bedtime story and the sort of sleep that comes from feeling the sun on your skin and fresh air in your lungs.

It was the perfect way to end a lovely day, and definitely the moment to capture two little sisters, and their brother too, in May:

Space for the Butterflies - an eclectic handmade life


dear beautiful
This month I’m sending you on to Amber.  She takes the most gorgeous photos of the most adorable twin baby boys you’ve ever seen, seems to keep lovely natural light in her pocket just ready for pictures, and as we seem to have very similar tastes when it comes to dressing baby boys if she keeps posting baby fashion posts my credit card may never recover!  I can’t wait to see her pictures.
And now it’s over to you – what have your siblings been up to this month?

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  • Claire @ Clarina's Contemplations 15/05/2015 at 7:13 am

    So glad you are a little bit further along the line than we are… I will be watching for tips on how to mother three and how to encourage the sweet relationships that yours so clearly have! I feel very familiar and comfortable with two now, and I worry sometimes that the dynamic of three will change things… But it’s good to be reminded that that change will not necessarily be a bad thing! Gorgeous pictures… And I love the auto-pilot comment!

    • Carie 17/05/2015 at 9:29 pm

      I think you’ll find that because you are comfortable with two you’ll be able to devote your energy to nurturing three – three is awesome, and although it’s a change you’re going to do wonderfully!

  • The Reading Residence 15/05/2015 at 7:49 am

    SO interesting to see the developing dynamics of a trio, I can see that it is more complex than the two. They all look so close, lovely photos x

    • Carie 17/05/2015 at 9:28 pm

      I find it fascinating!

  • Beth 15/05/2015 at 9:44 am

    Those photos are gorgeous!!

    • Carie 17/05/2015 at 9:28 pm

      thank you 🙂

  • Louise 15/05/2015 at 10:23 am

    Such beautiful photos as always and how interesting to hear about the different relationships between your little trio – as you say there’s just one sibling relationship between a pair and then it becomes more complex with the different relationships with three. I love how Elma and Pip will hold hands while nursing together or that he will stroke her hair – that is so beautiful 🙂

    • Carie 17/05/2015 at 9:28 pm

      Thank you 🙂

  • Caro | The Twinkles Mama 15/05/2015 at 10:48 am

    Aaah Carie — these are so lovely! It’s just gorgeous to see Pip growing up. I can imagine that it’s definitely more complex with three, although you’re lucky that the two first are the same sex and have had just each other to get to know for a couple of years.By the way, I don’t agree that Amber’s twin boys are the most adorable twin baby boys I’ll ever see!! Whilst they’re gorgeous, I have my own that will *always* be the most adorable!! LOL! 😉 But then, I am biased. #Siblings

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    • Carie 17/05/2015 at 9:27 pm

      Oh sorry sorry sorry – can yours be the most adorable twin baby toddlers …!?

  • Natalie @ Little Jam Pot Life Blog 15/05/2015 at 12:50 pm

    Beautiful Carie, Its the same here sometimes with that the girls love to go off and do exploring and Phoenix is left to his own devices. They will usually come back to see if he wants to join in though as he is now on the go xx

    • Carie 17/05/2015 at 9:24 pm

      I think it’s as our boys really find their feet that they dynamic is going to change all over again and I can’t wait to see what happens next

  • LauraCYMFT 15/05/2015 at 12:55 pm

    Aww these are lovely photos. Kitty sounds like the best big sister taking Pip on the slide. So cute!

    • Carie 17/05/2015 at 9:21 pm

      She’s so sweet with him – even if I did nearly have heart failure!

  • Nasreen 15/05/2015 at 3:17 pm

    Looks like a lovely spot for a picnic…and the gorgeous afternoon light means I’ve noticed Pip’s blonde hair for the first time! A big gap between my first two and my third makes for different dynamics again, especially with the little one still so little. The big brothers are very caring and happy to play with baby, albeit for a short time. I’m happy they’re all boys because I like to think that once they’re adults the age difference will be insignificant and baby won’t be left out.

    • Carie 17/05/2015 at 9:19 pm

      Ah yes, the boy does have hair – it’s very light, and quite like Kitty’s – she just had so much more by this point! At the time I didn’t realise how much hair she had for her age, it’s only with the other two I get what everyone was on about!

  • Katy (What Katy Said) 15/05/2015 at 10:24 pm

    I absolutely adore how you describe each of their relationships. I am the older of two sisters too and having 2 girls myself have never really thought about how different it would be if we had a third. They are all adorable though and I love that last photo of the three of them. #Siblings

    • Carie 17/05/2015 at 9:00 pm

      thank you 🙂

  • Caroline (Becoming a SAHM) 16/05/2015 at 6:30 am

    Wow Pip is getting so big! What a cutie and sounds like they have such lovely relationships. I can see why this is one of your favourite spots too, gorgeous! Xx

    • Carie 17/05/2015 at 9:00 pm

      isn’t he just!!

  • sally 16/05/2015 at 10:15 am

    Those kind of outings are my favourite. Such lovely photos, and, yes, 3 is an interesting dynamic. Increasingly so, I think, as the littlest grows big enough to play a more major role. And I have to say, I find 4 a much easier dynamic than 3! And I’m sure Kitty would adore another little baby brother or sister!

    • Carie 17/05/2015 at 8:58 pm

      Never say never – but I need a break first!!

  • Emma Kershaw 16/05/2015 at 12:35 pm

    Such lovely photos, looks like you had a lovely picnic 🙂 #Siblings

    • Carie 17/05/2015 at 8:57 pm

      thank you – it was really lovely!

  • Kelly Taylor 16/05/2015 at 9:36 pm

    You know what, Carie? That actually made me properly well up. So beautifully written. Your love for these three little people just oozes from this post. Gorgeous, late afternoon light in your images. And, go Mama, for tandem nursing! xx


    • Carie 17/05/2015 at 8:56 pm

      Aww thank you – and sorry for the tears!

  • Bex @ The Mummy Adventure 16/05/2015 at 10:28 pm

    I am starting to see the complexity of it with my three, but we have a long way to go still and I hope that they continue to have such wonderful relationships.

    • Carie 17/05/2015 at 8:56 pm

      I think it’s not really there to start with – my girls thought Pip was a rather time consuming sort of teddy bear to start with! But now he’s on the move and really interactive I can see it start.

  • Sara (@mumturnedmom) 17/05/2015 at 1:03 am

    I can completely relate to this, and as one of two it has been fascinating for me to watch the dynamic of three develop with my children. They all get on, but in very different ways x These photos are just stunning x #siblings

    • Carie 17/05/2015 at 8:54 pm

      thank you very much 🙂

  • Carie 17/05/2015 at 11:43 am

    Oh CARIE, these are so beautiful.

    The two-siblings dynamic is the familiar one for me too, and Kirsty is an only, so it’s interesting to us to read your account of having three children as we plan our third.

    Do get that tandem nursing pic! It sounds utterly precious.

    • Carie 17/05/2015 at 8:52 pm

      It’s really interesting to see something we’ve got no experience of isn’t it – do you feel that way watching the boys develop their twin relationship even before you’ve added the third?

  • Alexandra @dontcallmestepmummy 17/05/2015 at 4:12 pm

    Beautiful, these are just stunning pictures. I think it’s amazing that a woman’s body knows how to nurse two at different stages of their sustinence needs. I remember them telling me I’d be able to feed them both, but Judah stopped feeding at 10 months, I was devastated. I was so unwell with hyperemesis he must’ve decided it didn’t taste good, or wasn’t getting much. You have to capture a photo though, get the tripod out. It will be an amazing pic for you to look at in the future. xxx I love reading your posts #siblings

    • Carie 17/05/2015 at 8:50 pm

      Aww thank you – I’m going to try to get H to take a picture sometime – I should have done it when Pip was tiny and I was tandem tandemning every evening but we were a bit too busy parenting – it’s always the way isn’t it!

  • Mummy of Two 17/05/2015 at 7:48 pm

    These are such gorgeous photos. It is really interesting to see how they are getting on as a trio, having just added our third! Already I can see my two eldest changing as they adjust to their new sibling.

    • Carie 17/05/2015 at 8:48 pm

      thank you 🙂

  • Sian 17/05/2015 at 8:56 pm

    What gorgeous pictures – I love the early pick up picnic tea idea! It’s lovely to hear about their relationship, I’ve heard a few trio families say that the eldest and the youngest buddy up in the early years. We are definitely a duo family – more’s the pity as I’d have another but A won’t budge!

    • Carie 17/05/2015 at 9:31 pm

      Thank you – it’s going to be really interesting to see how it plays out as they get bigger, especially with the girl/boy mix I’ve got.

  • Jane - Our Little Escapades 18/05/2015 at 7:22 pm

    As always lovely photos. I think they will have a great relationship as a three being that they are two girls and a boy. I think the girls will have a good bond as a two because of that, they will also be protective of their little brother. I think you handled the slide moment much better than I would have x

    • Carie 18/05/2015 at 10:45 pm

      Aww thank you – I’ll admit I nearly charged out to them in a “you’re doing what!!!” mode but he was so happy and she was so proud of herself I let it go and we just focussed on keeping safe for next time!!