Elma Family Kitty {the ordinary moments}

Two little faces


I said in my last Siblings post that my girls are best friends and worst enemies and quite often it seems to be both at the same time.  Either they’re lying on the floor locked in a loving embrace, or their lying on the floor locked in a fierce battle over control of the pink etch a sketch, it’s sometimes hard to tell.  My dearest wish is that they will grow up to be close, to have each other’s backs through life’s storms and to have the sort of easygoing relationship that only comes from growing up together.  But I know I can’t force it, all I can do is sit back and watch and wait and hope and let them find their own path together.

Space for the Butterflies - an eclectic handmade family life  

Space for the Butterflies - an eclectic handmade family life

Space for the Butterflies - an eclectic handmade family life       

Sometimes I wonder whether they’ll get there when an afternoon is full of “I don’t like you!”, “Go away from me”, or in Elma’s case (to Kitty) “Stay away, you’ll be safe from me” (too much Frozen, oops), but they’re only ever temporary wobbles, and possibly just an indicator of how much they do love each other, and are aware of that love, that they can scrap and still be certain of sisterly affection.

And then there are the times when it becomes abundantly clear.

Space for the Butterflies - an eclectic handmade family life

Space for the Butterflies - an eclectic handmade family life

We were driving through town this week; we’d dropped Kitty off at nursery, then gone to the butchers and the supermarket and we were wiggling across to pick up the main road on the far side on a mission for plastic tubs from IKEA and in all of our wiggles we got quite close to the nursery again, just turning left where we would go right.  And as I turned a little voice from the back seat piped up:

“Mama! We left Litty at nursery!”

She talks about taking Kit to nursery all the time (usually followed with “and then gym class”) but this is the first time she’s said “left”.

“It’s all right, lovely girl, we’re going to get your sister later” I said

“I want Litty!” came the reply,

“I love Litty.”  

“I just really want Litty.”

And the bottom lip trembled.

I’m afraid to say I went with the classic parenting technique of passing her a biscuit and hoping for the best because I have picked Kitty up early from nursery and the only occasion on which it will not produce epic levels of unhappiness at being deprived of the last few minutes of the day with her friends is if I arrive with a grandparent in tow, and I’m not sure I will ever be ready to coral two walking pre-schoolers around the maze that is IKEA.

We all had a lovely afternoon and when we went in to pick Kitty up at the appropriate time she was sat on the floor singing with her friends.  Elma sped on in ahead of me while I tried to keep a grip on a wriggling Pip and Kitty leapt up, ran straight towards us and swooped Elma up in a big hug that somehow ended up with both of them sat on the floor. 

Space for the Butterflies - an eclectic handmade family life

Two happy little sisters, reunited again; until the next time.

 Space for the Butterflies - an eclectic handmade family life


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  • The Reading Residence 22/03/2015 at 7:22 am

    Ah, that is very sweet. It’s funny how sometimes they just desperately need to see each other. Mine tend to be like that in the morning when waiting for the other to wake up! X

    • Carie 23/03/2015 at 10:25 pm

      I love it when I send Kitty to get Elma after her nap – Kitty’s usually so keen to have her back she goes bounding up the stairs in giant leaps!

  • Claire @ Clarina's Contemplations 22/03/2015 at 7:30 am

    Beautiful! So much of this resonates with where we’re st with our girls too. They can make me despair if they’re having a bickering afternoon… But they more often than not make my heart melt with their cute little friendship! Lovely post.xxx

    • Carie 23/03/2015 at 10:23 pm

      It’s always at that point when you wonder how they’re ever going coexist again that you turn around and they’re having a big hug isn’t it!!

  • Sam - Life of Mum 22/03/2015 at 8:07 am

    Sounds like they have a perfectly normal sibling relationship. A lot of fighting and a lot of love too!! Love their matching dresses!! X #ordinarymoments

    • Carie 23/03/2015 at 10:22 pm

      I’m getting in all of my matching clothes while they’re still little enough to enjoy it!!

  • Mackenzie Glanville (reflectionsfromme.com) 22/03/2015 at 8:30 am

    It sounds like they have a beautiful bond. My sister was 4 years my senior and we always had a great friendship as children, and we still do. We have a lifelong friendship that nothing can compare to. My daughters 10 and 7 also have an amazing bond and I hope it will last a lifetime. A touching post, I just had to tweet it!

    • Carie 23/03/2015 at 10:21 pm

      I’m 2.5 years older than my sister and we’re very close now, though growing up we rather did our own thing. I love that Elma and Kitty are so close now, even if the closeness becomes too close occasionally!

  • Anna 22/03/2015 at 9:25 am

    Such a lovely story and gorgeous pictures too – I love the matching dresses and Elma’s haircut makes her look so grown up 🙂

    • Carie 23/03/2015 at 10:20 pm

      I know, where has my little baby girl got to!

  • Potty Mouthed Mummy 22/03/2015 at 9:27 am

    Oh gosh what a beautiful relationship they have. Sounds just gorgeous, even with ups and downs. Lovely to read xx

    • Carie 23/03/2015 at 10:19 pm

      For all their squabbling I don’t think they’d be without each other for the whole world and that’s priceless

  • sustainablemum 22/03/2015 at 10:51 am

    They wouldn’t be siblings or friends without the ups and downs 🙂

    • Carie 23/03/2015 at 10:18 pm

      True indeed!

  • Caroline (Becoming a SAHM) 22/03/2015 at 11:22 am

    Oh that is lovely and I imagine there is no other relationship quite like being sisters xx

    • Carie 23/03/2015 at 10:18 pm

      I’ve only ever known sisters so I’m curious to see whether their relationship to Pip is any different

  • Nasreen 22/03/2015 at 12:04 pm

    Just last night I had to reassure my eldest after a particularly “fighty” day that it is normal to have a best friend/worst enemy relationship with his brother during childhood, because only the people you are most connected with can stir up such fierce emotions. He then raced off to hug his brother and tell him how much he loved him – NOT! Friends again today though 🙂

    • Carie 23/03/2015 at 10:17 pm

      Aww bless, I love it! I’m glad they’re friends again now though 🙂

  • Becky | Spirited Puddle Jumper 22/03/2015 at 1:04 pm

    So sweet 🙂 It’s always the way, that they’re either fighting or best of friends- I found myself nodding away to so much of what you wrote, almost identical situation here! When Freddie was off preschool ill the other week, he spent the whole day asking after Sasha, when were we going to pick her up? etc etc When we actually picked her up, there were big hugs all round, but as soon as we got home the fighting began again! *sigh* Oh, and I am with you on not going to Ikea with two small people *shudder* #beentheredonethat

    • Carie 23/03/2015 at 10:16 pm

      I’ve never yet taken all three – even with H there as well, and I think we’re going to keep it that way!!

  • Kim 22/03/2015 at 5:21 pm

    So sweet!

    • Carie 23/03/2015 at 10:16 pm

      thank you 🙂

  • Donna 22/03/2015 at 5:37 pm

    Oh they sound like they have the perfect sibling relationship – loving and fighting in equal measure! I am sure LP and Little Man will be exactly the same – as long as each day starts and ends with hugs and kisses it can’t be bad x

    • Carie 23/03/2015 at 10:15 pm

      They are always good friends again by bedtime so I think you might be on to something 🙂

  • Jane - Our Little Escapades 22/03/2015 at 8:34 pm

    This is so sweet and shows what a great relationship they have. It’s only normal to get on each others nerves when you are so close. I must admit we use chocolate to clam moments in the car lol x

    • Carie 23/03/2015 at 10:15 pm

      Yay for chocolate-based parenting!!

  • Katie @mummydaddyme 22/03/2015 at 10:22 pm

    Aw this is so lovely Carie and I completely resonated and can relate to every word. I find my sister’s bond so fascinating and utterly compelling- they can literally love each other and then despise each other in a second. But they ultimately have this deep bond already, and I hope that I can nurture that as they grow together. x

    • Carie 23/03/2015 at 10:14 pm

      It is amazing to see as an outsider – fingers crossed their bond stays as strong as they grow up

  • Natalie 23/03/2015 at 3:47 pm

    My girls are the same way! love each other so much but also get into such fierce fights! I just hope that they like I do, always can count on her sisters!

    • Carie 23/03/2015 at 10:08 pm

      I’m hoping it’s just a phase! I can only remember one full on scrap with my sister and despite that we’re the best of friends now so there’s hope for us all!

  • Jess @ Picnics in the Rain 23/03/2015 at 9:09 pm

    This is such a lovely post Carie, your girls clearly have a truly special bond and I hope it continues to get stronger as they grow x

    • Carie 23/03/2015 at 10:04 pm

      I really hope so too, they’re such a lovely pair at the moment 🙂

  • sally 02/04/2015 at 11:41 am

    Ahh, I’m sure they will always be close. And I once read somewhere that having brothers and sisters led to increased chances of successful relationships in adulthood, because of learning to give and take and going through all the squabbles involved with siblings but learning to work through them and stay connected So on bad days, it’s just future relationship training!

    • Carie 03/04/2015 at 7:47 am

      Let’s hope so!