Family Kitty

My Little Big Sister


We spent last weekend celebrating the very special and very unordinary first birthday of my gorgeous little nephew.  The young man himself was rather unimpressed by all of the fuss, and mostly seemed to be wondering why all these extra people were in his house, but Elma at least was forgiven the intrusion when she shared her plate of breadsticks and baby snacks with him, and all of those over the age of one seemed to have a wonderful time celebrating this lovely little boy.

Space for the Butterflies - an eclectic handmade family life

But the moments I most treasure aren’t the party and the balloons, the cake (oh so much wonderful cake) and spending time with the people we love, though those were all special too, so much as quietly watching my eldest daughter.

Kitty is for the most part a very typical three year old at the moment; she’s buzzing from morning to night, asking a hundred and one “why?” questions, and being both intensely frustrating and adorably wonderful in equal measure.  And with that she is also a great big sister to Elma.  She looks out for Elma, shares her toys and treats, sometimes with a little prompting, and still hates it when Elma gets sad, or angry-sad, even if it’s because Kitty has removed something from her grasp on the basis that “she’s ruining it Mummy!”.  As Elma gets more and more mobile they’re starting to play together more and more and it’s a lovely relationship to watch blossom.

Space for the Butterflies - an eclectic handmade family life

I know first hand how Kitty and Elma respond to each other, and even Kitty and the small nephew, but what was lovely to watch was Kitty interacting with the marauding hoards of other one year olds at the party.

Space for the Butterflies - an eclectic handmade family life

She fetched them toys and stroked their cheeks, threw the ball to them in the garden (admittedly with more enthusiasm than accuracy), and was most often found in another room chatting away to someone else’s slightly bemused baby.  I think a fair few of them got a very good sense about what it would be like to have a big sister for a day.  I know it sounds like she was being a bit bossy but it was actually really sweet; she wasn’t telling them what to do so much as looking out for them.

Space for the Butterflies - an eclectic handmade family life

I’ve always loved the mantra that says you should never take too much of the blame or too much of the praise for your children’s actions, mainly because it’s a huge comfort when you’re getting the stink eye from someone two checkouts over while not one but both your children have a wailing meltdown in the supermarket, but the praise part of it is true too.  I don’t take credit for the way Kitty acts with the little ones; it’s just a part of her personality, something in her make up that makes her want to take care of people, but it doesn’t mean that I’m not prodigiously proud of her, and why I want to save the compliments that were paid to her so that when she’s old enough to read this little moment in our family story she can know how much her Auntie’s friends and family thought she was lovely; how it was obvious to anyone watching that she has a nurturing soul, how hearing that made me smile with joy, and most importantly how it earned her several extra slices of cake from more than one honorary auntie.

Space for the Butterflies - an eclectic handmade family life


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  • Emily 06/04/2014 at 7:41 am

    I love those never ending ‘why?’ questions! 🙂 #theordinarymoments

    • Carie 06/04/2014 at 7:46 am

      They are generally hilarious – although some of them leave me utterly bemused for an answer!

  • Anna-Marie 06/04/2014 at 8:29 am

    Lovely post Carie and gorgeous photos. I get the “why” question from the little boy and as much as it is tedious to keep repeating yourself its them learning so its all good in the end! xx

    • Carie 06/04/2014 at 9:04 am

      Thank you 🙂 some of the questions are really great and some of them are just bizarre – ah the inner workings of a three year old!

  • mirari 06/04/2014 at 2:13 pm

    kitty,s lucky to have a little sister, a future good friend.
    and three years sometimes are sooo terrible!

  • Karen 06/04/2014 at 2:54 pm

    Hi there! I just found your blog via the Ordinary Moments link! This is a lovely post and will be great for your daughter to read when she’s older, she sounds just lovely. My little boy has just turned 4 so we have just left the wonderful ‘threes’ – he hasn’t stopped asking ‘why’ though!!! 😉

  • Bex @ The Mummy Adventure 06/04/2014 at 3:58 pm

    What a lovely post – there is nothing quite like the pride when your child behaves so wonderfully and shows the loveliest sides of their personality and Kitty sounds like a brilliant big sister x

  • Katie @mummydaddyme 06/04/2014 at 10:16 pm

    This made me tear up a little Carie, one because you can so obviously sense the pride in your words about your beautiful Kitty and secondly because you spoke about her reading this little part of her family story- that’s exactly why I blog and do this linky, so I can remember those little moments in the life of our family x

  • Lauren 06/04/2014 at 11:26 pm

    She sounds so wonderful. What a sweet little girl x

  • Super Busy Mum {Debs} 07/04/2014 at 8:54 am

    I don’t think those “why?” questions will end for a good while yet, lol! My eldest is 14 and I still get the occasional one from him, lol. Gorgeous moments nad beautiful photos! #ordinarymoments

  • Jenny 07/04/2014 at 4:01 pm

    I love this post. So cute. All the pictures look amazing. The sun really does help bring out some fun! Glad you had a great time together. #ordinarymoments

  • older mum in a muddle 08/04/2014 at 6:59 pm

    Loved reading this post – it’s so wonderful watching their natural personalities come to the fore, and Kitty is so obviously very caring towards the smaller babies. Love the first picture…. Elma looking so cute in profile. X