Elma Family {the ordinary moments}

So very not asleep


There a nights when bedtime for little girls seems to take a while, when all the unravelling of the day just needs to take its time and I sit and rock and nurse a sleepy little baby, waiting for that moment when heavy lids sink down down down and I can tuck her into bed and creep downstairs to the joys of the washing up.

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And then there are the days when you know it’s just not going to work. When the nursing is less sleepy and more wholeheartedly enthusiastic, and followed by a bright eyed little girl sitting bolt upright in your lap, all beaming smile.

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“Mama!” she says, “mwaa!”, and blows the biggest kiss in my direction.

We’ve had a few of those nights over the past week or so, usually because a certain someone has done a bit too much sleeping during the day. Elma at fifteen months is getting to the stage where she’s dropping down to just one nap a day, and it’s just taking us a little while to figure out our new rhythm.

And when she’s just that awake at bedtime, there’s really only one thing to do, and that’s give in gracefully.

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Yes, clearly one very sleepy little girl!

In truth, we don’t mind the occasional late night with our littler girl (note to Elma: heavy emphasis on occasional) it’s a treat to us to both be focused on the same daughter at the same time, and she laps up the extra attention. It’s the simple little things that perhaps we took for granted when we just had Kitty; letting her practice her walking between our fingers, or just cuddles and tickles, and then a snuggly story before another attempt at the bedtime routine.

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And for all that I treasure my evenings, my chance to reconnect with H, and to do the things that make me Carie as well as Mummy, I don’t think I’d swap, not really. Who could resist that little funny face.

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  • melanie 16/03/2014 at 7:25 am

    we have a had a few of those nights ourselves lately. with our first we would worry about making sure she stayed in her room, or at least upstairs, to keep her in the bedtime mood but with our smallest it is nice to relax the rules a little, take him downstairs, have a chat and try again in a little while. and of course it’s nice to have that extra time with him, it always somehow feels that the second isn’t getting the same attention as the first did! x

    • Carie 17/03/2014 at 8:43 am

      I think I’m definitely more relaxed about bedtime rules this time around than when Kitty was really tiny – but part of that at least is down to their personalities. Elma can play for another half hour and then quite happily hop off to bed whereas Kitty liked her routine a bit more!

  • Caroline 16/03/2014 at 8:29 am

    I love her face in these:) My husband doesn’t get home until well after bedtime but some nights I hear Grier shouting ‘I watch telly with you?’ from the cot and I’m powerless to resist……
    It’s a second child thing for sure, Grier has to share so much of my time that I sometimes give in a little too easily. Enjoy Carie and Elma!

    • Carie 17/03/2014 at 8:44 am

      I don’t think it’s giving in too easily – it’s giving in when it’s just right!

  • Lauren 16/03/2014 at 11:46 am

    These photos are so cute.
    We don’t tend to have these nights with Harry but we did a lot with Charles, and still do sometimes. I really like them, he is so funny and cute when he is in a half asleep/half awake state.
    As you say, it’s nice to have that extra time with one of your children to concentrate fully on them 🙂 x

    • Carie 17/03/2014 at 8:46 am

      Aww, that does sound lovely. Elma doesn’t really do sleepy – she’s either wide awake (as you see) or asleep!!

  • Claire @ Clarina's Contemplations 16/03/2014 at 7:13 pm

    Oh, I so get the whole sibling “sharing time” thing. Sometimes I feel bad for Heidi that she never really gets us to herself, but then I try and remind myself that actually, she’s really enriched by Ava too, and that having a big sister brings her so much joy!
    Oh! This whole parenting thing is a tightrope, isn’t it?? Love Elma’s little face in these!

    • Carie 17/03/2014 at 8:47 am

      I think that’s so true, Elma just adores Kitty and her life is definitely brighter for having her big sister, even if she does have to share Mama and Daddy.

  • Anna-Marie 16/03/2014 at 7:56 pm

    Such lovely photo’s Carie xx

    • Carie 17/03/2014 at 8:48 am

      Thank you 🙂

  • Katie @mummydaddyme 16/03/2014 at 8:22 pm

    She looks so unbelievably cheeky in these photos- it’s like she knows that she is up to no good. 😉 Sometimes I feel like this, but actually these night time cuddles/snuggles are the moments I treasure the most. x

    • Carie 17/03/2014 at 8:49 am

      Oh she’s got cheeky down to a fine art! It’s one of the best bits about that extra time with just her, getting to watch her personality emerge!

  • Jess @ Along Came Cherry 16/03/2014 at 8:39 pm

    Ah I love those nights where one of the kids either wakes up unexpectedly or doesn’t go to bed on time. J doesn’t have set nap times and they vary so his bedtime does too and sometimes he always seems to be extra cheeky when he’s up late. This are such cute photos x

    • Carie 17/03/2014 at 8:54 am

      Thank you 🙂 I think the children must be somehow aware that it’s a bit of a stolen treat and so they make the best of it!

  • Katie 16/03/2014 at 10:10 pm

    What a cheeky wee face! And i totally agree, so long as she is smiling and happy where is the harm in a little later bedtime?! 😉

    • Carie 17/03/2014 at 8:54 am

      Well quite – H took these photos and she was having a blast playing peepo with him!

  • Eline @ Pasta & Patchwork 17/03/2014 at 10:13 am

    Aw, what a cutie-pie! M is also dropping a nap and fighting bedtime at the moment. I need to take a leaf out of your book and just go with it – I get a bit stressed when I know there is a pile of things I need to do ‘as soon as he’s asleep’! You’re so very right that these are moments to be treasured though.

    • Carie 17/03/2014 at 9:22 pm

      There always will be things to do won’t there!

  • Carin 17/03/2014 at 12:46 pm

    What a lovely cheeky face! I love alone time with each of the kids. For us now, it more about the oldest since she’s in school all day and surrounded by her brother or friends in the afternoon, but Friday and Saturday nights have become our time now. Enjoy those moments for all that they’re worth!

    • Carie 17/03/2014 at 9:30 pm

      It is so special to spend that little extra time with miss Elma – we definitely treasure them!

  • Jenny 17/03/2014 at 1:17 pm

    Ahh what lovely pictures of her cheeky cute face!!! I find it hard to split my time to both. Sometimes I feel guilty that Buba gets less attention then the baby. But we try to do one on one time too. It’s all a balance. And sibling love is so amazing I wouldn’t have it any other way. lovely post I think alot of us can relate.

    • Carie 17/03/2014 at 9:32 pm

      Thank you – I think balance is probably the key to most parenting isn’t it!

  • Sara (@mumturnedmom) 18/03/2014 at 2:17 am

    What gorgeous photos – such a cute, cheeky face 🙂 my wee girl comes downstairs for a little bit before she goes to bed, gets me and daddy to herself for a while! #TheOrdinaryMoments

    • Carie 18/03/2014 at 3:33 pm

      I’m so glad we’re not the only ones sneaking in a little extra time!

  • 3yearsandhome 18/03/2014 at 9:26 pm

    This is so lovely. My husband works away a lot and when he does, my eldest tends to sneak downstairs after I’ve put him to bed. We have a little pretense of me being cross with him but secretly I love it 🙂

    • Carie 18/03/2014 at 11:40 pm

      I love it when you have to pretend to be stern but secretly you’re giggling inside – that’s so lovely that he just wants a little bit more time with you!